AB
- Adult babies.
active
-a person who is practising sex.
andro dyke or androgynous dyke
-a lesbian who is neither very masculine nor very feminine.
androgyny
-the state of being neither particularly masculine nor feminine, or of being ambiguous. From the Greek meaning literally man-woman.
andromimetophilia
-sexual arousal of a woman from impersonating a man.
asexual
-an absence of sexual feelings or attraction towards anyone or anything.
assy
-bitch.
aunt
-a lesbian who is a mentor, and, occasionally, protector of a male homosexual.
aureola
-the dark circle area around your nipple.
baby butch
-1) a young butch 2) a lesbian of any age who acts or looks like a young butch.
baby dyke
-a lesbian under the age of 25.
bag
-an aged, grumpy, and ugly woman.
baiting
-verbally attacking threatening, or insulting a person based on their sexual orientation.
barebacking or bareback sex
-unsafe sex. A term used mostly by gay men.
BDSM
-stands for, in turn, Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism.
black triangle.
-in the Nazi concentration camps, the black triangle (equilateral, worn point down) was used to mark "undesirables," such as prostitutes, the mentally ill, and the retarded. Lesbians in the camp probably would have also worn the black triangle, although there is some debate about it. It is sometimes worn as a pride symbol by lesbians.
bi or bisexual
-someone who is attracted to both males and females. Some people prefer the terms omnisexual or pansexual instead, because "bi" means two, and there actually are more sexes than two.
big O
-orgasm.
bitch
-a femme submissive. derogatory term used to describe a strong and assertive woman .
boiler
-an ugly woman.
bothie
- someone who has both a lesbian mum and a gay dad.
bottom
-1) in general the one who prefers to be the recipient or to "catch."
boydyke
-a boyish butch lesbian. See also baby butch.
box
-the 'vagina'.
breeder
-a derogatory term for a heterosexual, bisexual, or, rarely, any queer who wishes to have or has children.
brother
-a lesbian who is befriended by a gay man.
bull
-1) (n) short for bulldyke or bulldagger 2) (adj) butch.
bulldagger
-a very tough, usually butch, lesbian.
bulldyke
-a very tough, usually butch, lesbian.
bunny boiler
-an ex who displays psychotic/stalking behaviour.
bumping pussy
-lesbian sex.
bush
-pubic hair.
butch
-(n) a masculine woman, usually a lesbian
butch/femme
-1) (adj) describing a relationship in which one person is femme and one is butch, and describing the dynamic between them 2) the social structure prevalent in working-class lesbian bars up through the early 1970s. This structure was strictly enforced by peer pressure. One had to be either a butch or a femme, and butches only dated femmes and femmes only dated butches. There was a lot of backlash against this structure in the 1970s when lesbian feminism emerged, and for a long time butches and femmes were absolutely politically incorrect, and were likely to be shunned by the feminist lesbian community. Butch/femme is starting to make a comeback. In its new form, it is not rigidly enforced: women are butch or femme because it is their own personality, and nothing else. Butch-on-butch and femme-on-femme are no longer discriminated against. There is, however, still very strong anti-butch/femme sentiment.
butchilinity
-the quality of being butch
butch in the streets, femme in the sheets
-being dominant in public and submissive in private.
byke
-a contraction of bisexual dyke.
carpet muncher
-a lesbian.
chapstick lesbian
-a lesbian who is very into sports, a sports dyke.
choir
-meaning someone who is queer - 'she sings in our choir'.
circle
-one's chosen friends.
civil partnership
-official recognition of same-sex relationships affording some of the benefits given to heterosexual married couples.
clit
-clitoris.
clit lit
- lesbian fiction of non-fiction books.
clithopper
- a promiscuous lesbian.
closet case
-a queer who spends most of her life in the closet and is very, very worried about it and is scared of being outed.
come (also cum)
-to have an orgasm.
come-on
-to make someone aware that you are sexually attracted to them and would like something to happen.
coming out (also come out, coming out of the closet)
-to exit the closet by becoming openly queer.
cunnilingus
-to stimulate the female genitals with your tongue and mouth. from the latin cunnus (vagins) lingus (tongue).
daddy
-an older dyke who 'looks after' her partner.
de-diking
- to remove all signs of lesbian life from your home before the visit of a an unsuspecting parent or friend
demo dyke
- a politically correct or protesting lesbian
diesel dyke
-a very truck-driver-like butch.
dildo
-a vaguely-phallus-shaped device used for sexual gratification. Actually, they come in lots of shapes, from very-realistic penis-shape, to vegetables like corn cobs and zucchini, to dolphins (the non-representational ones are used by lesbians who don't care for phallic shapes).
domestic partnership (now civil partnership)
- an official recognition of a same-sex partnership
domme/dominatrix/dom
-someone who enjoys dominating another person in a Domination and Submission scene. A Dom may or may not be a Sadist. Domme and Dominatrix are feminine, Dom is masculine. Frequently used interchangeably with Top.
double-gaited
-bisexual.
drag king
-a dyke who dresses and can sometimes pass as man. different from transgendered as a drag king does not actually want to be a man. usually done for entertainment purposes.
dutch boy
-a gay man who hangs out with lesbians.
dyke
-a lesbian, frequently one with attitude. Also, was frequently used as a term of derision for talking about lesbians, but more and more queer women are reclaiming this word and using it in a positive rather than negative manner.
dykon
-a lesbian icon
dysette
-an old term for a lesbian with a masculine face.
earthy-crunchy dyke
-a lesbian who is usually vegetarian and usually either New Age or Neopagan and has a tendency to change her name to something like "Sparrow" or "Lavender CrystalPower."
easy
-sexually consenting with little or no encouragement on a regular basis.
F
-female
fag bag
-a woman who is married to gay man.
fag hag
-a straight woman prefers the company of gay men.
fairy lady
-a lesbian who takes a passive role in occasional sex with men. a bisexual.
faklesbian
-a straight girl who only kisses other girls to get/impress a guy. a woman/girl who declares she is 'turning lesbian' as she's pissed off with men
femme
-(n) a feminine lesbian who dresses and acts according to the stereotypical female gender role.
feminosexual
- for those who feel that homosexual is too gay male orientated.
femme in the streets, butch in the sheets
-submissive in public and dominant in private.
fetish or fetish object
-feeling of great sexual pleasure for an object or body part.
finger artist
- of African-American origin, an alternative name for lesbian and one I quite like myself.
fish
-a heterosexual woman.
fish dinner (also muff-diving, licking the beaver, carpet munching, going down)
-slang for cunnilingus
flipping
-to cause a stone butch to "melt" or allow herself to be touched sexually, or to cause a top to bottom
fluff
-an older word for a femme, now fallen into disuse.
fresh meat
-a newcomer to the lesbian or gay scene.
frig
-to masturbate.
FTM (also F2M)
-Female To Male, referring to a person who is Trans.
fuck buddy (also booty call)
-someone you only contact when you are looking for sex and have no commitment with.
fur
-pubic hair.
galimony
-the lesbian version of palimony.
gay bashing
-the harassment of homosexuals either verbally or physically.
gaydar
-gay radar, the sense by which queers identify other queers
gender
-the social, mental, and emotional state associated with sex (sex being purely physical) and sex role stereotypes. Gender is masculine, feminine, neuter, or some combination thereof. It is not, as it is frequently used, synonymous with sex.
gender bending
-see gender fuck
gender fuck
-deliberately disrupting the bipolar gender system.
genderqueer
a person who feels neither 'male' nor 'female', or both 'male' and 'female'; a person who feels their gender does not fit into the socially contructed gender 'norms.'
girl
-a femme submissive or bottom, frequently one who role-plays as young
girlfriend
-1) any friend, either a woman or a gay man 2) a lesbian's lover
glamour butch
-a butch who likes to wear fancy suits, tuxedos, etc, frequently.
go to Denmark
-to have a sex change.
god squad
-the devotees of organised religion, particularly fundamentalists and far-right evangelical christians, who spend inordinate amounts of time and effort trying to take away the rights of lesbians and gay men. Very christian indeed.
golden rule
-the rule that you do not, ever, reveal someone to be homosexual to their family, friends, or media. It is their sexuality and her choice when to come out.
gold-star lesbian
-a lesbian who never has had and never intends to have sex with a man. Sometimes they also get points for never sleeping with bisexuals. Entirely too many of them get terribly self-righteous about it, and look down on bisexuals and lesbians who have had sex with men.
graceful
-the translation of an Arabic euphemism for a female homosexual, apparently because many female dancers are/were lesbian (given a few days, I may even get the transliteration of the Arabic word)
gynaecotrope
-suggested by Karl Hiller as an alternative word for lesbian due to the negative connotations 'lesbian' is supposed to carry. It never caught on.
half-and-half
-bisexual
hardcore
-explicit. extreme.
heterosexism
-the belief that heterosexuality is superior to homosexuality or bisexuality, or the tendency to assume that everyone is heterosexual
high femme
-a very, very feminine person.
homo
-a homosexual woman or man.
homocentric
-the belief that two of a kind beats a straight
homophobia
-an extreme irrational hatred or fear of homosexuals
homosexual panic (also gay panic)
-a term used to describe a person who suffers severe anxiety when in the presence of lesbians or, more commonly, gay men. It has also been used as a legal defence for gay-bashing - 'I thought he was going to come on to me and I suffered from gay panic' - a totally reasonable reason for allowing someone to beat a gay man to a pulp - NOT. as is the case with homophobes, people who show this degree of 'fear' around homosexuals are usually repressed homosexuals themselves.
hood pull back
-to be sexually aroused, referring to the clitoral hood - 'she's so hot she makes my hood pull back'.
kiki
-a term for butch or femme lesbian from 1940's-1960's
king
-lesbian.
kinky or kink
-describing sex which most people find unusual or abnormal
labrys
-a double-headed axe which was originally found in the ancient Minoan depictions of the Mother Goddess where its symbolism is related to the labyrinth. The word 'labrys' is Minoan in origin and is from the latin 'labus' which means 'lips'. Its use has been documented on medieval charms used to attract women, and similar symbols have been found on Norse, African, and Greek religious objects. Today it is primarily used as a sign of identity and solidarity among lesbians.
lambda
-the Greek letter which translates as L. To the Greeks, it was a symbol of justice and equality, taking its shape from the scales of justice. It was adopted as a gay pride/gay rights symbol by the Mattachine Society in the 1970s, and is an international symbol of gay pride. Mattachine adopted it because of the symbolism of Justice and because they had been told that the army of one of the Greek city-states used to paint the lambda on their shields, and members of Greek armies, because of the male-only environment they lived in, frequently took male lovers.
lavender
-the colour most associated with lesbians and gay men. It is produced by mixing the traditional female pink with the male blue.
lavender marriage
-a marriage of convenience between a lesbian and gay man, usually to take advantage of the benefits which are afforded to heterosexual couples who marry.
LBGT
- acronym for Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, and Transgendered/Transsexual
leatherdyke
-a lesbian who is a member of the Leather/BDSM community
lesbian
-a homosexual woman.
lesbian separatist
-a lesbian who prefers to live and work away from non-straight women, and all men.
lesbophobia
-irrational fear or hatred of lesbians.
lesbyterian
-rare synonym for lesbian
lipstick lesbian
-1)a lesbian who behaves in a very feminine manner, not so much because she is a femme, but to distance herself from dykedom. These types tend to not even like the word "lesbian" and be very closeted. 2)synonym for High Femme.
lizzy
-a lesbian.
love juice
-the fluid which is produced when a woman is aroused.
love that dare not speak its name, the
-one of the more poetic phrases used to describe homosexuality, courtesy of Lord Alfred Douglas, the fellow who got Oscar Wilde in so much trouble.
low femme
-a femme lesbian who is, perhaps, not quite so stereotypically feminine as a high femme, usually preferring jeans and a blouse or t-shirt to skirts for everyday.
LP
-Lesbian Potential, used when playing spot-the-queers in public places, as in "she's got high LP"
married
-in a long-term, same-sex relationship.
masochist
-someone who derives sexual pleasure from pain.
mess around
-to have sexual relations without commitment.
monosexism
-1)the belief that monosexuality (heterosexuality or homosexuality) is superior to bisexuality or omnisexuality 2)the belief that bisexuality or omnisexuality do not exist
monosexual
-an exclusively heterosexual or exclusively homosexual person.
muff
-vagina
nymph
-a lovely young woman
nymphomaniac (also sex addict)
-a woman who has an uncontrollable urge to have sex all the time.
O
-orgasm.
on a promise
-to be certain of getting sex with someone.
out
-1) publicly known as queer, sometimes modified with "very" 2) known as queer to close friends and/or blood family 3) acknowledge to oneself that one is queer
outed
-having it announced publicly that you are queer by someone other than yourself, usually when you would rather stay in the closet. Outing has come into use as a political weapon. It is wrong to out anyone without their permission, no matter what your objectives, unless this person is promoting the persecution of queer people.
omnisexual
-someone who is sexually attracted to people of all sexes
packing
-to wear a strap-on dildo, usually under one's clothes. Also, to put something (such as a pair of rolled-up sweat socks or a cut up Kotex) in the underwear or shorts to achieve the illusion that there is something else there.
pack of dykes
-a group of lesbians who 'act' like a tribe.
pansexual
-1) (n) someone who is sexually attracted to people of all sexes 2) (adj) used to denote an event at which people of all sexes are welcome
PC dyke or Politically Correct dyke
-a lesbian who is very careful in her language not to offend those people who are currently the pet minorities. They are mostly andro dykes because butch and femme are still very politically incorrect. Some of them become very dogmatic and absolutist about who is and who is not one of the "worthy" minorities.
pink
-a colour frequently associated with homosexuals.
pink pound
-the disposable income lesbians and gay men are supposed to have due to the fact that they are expected not to have families to support.
pinky ring
-at one time, worn by both men and women to signify that one was queer. Usually worn on the left hand.
play
-(v) any BDSM activity.
poppa
-any lesbian under the age of consent.
pride
-1)n the belief that Gay is Good! 2)adj used in titles of events to denote that they are queer celebrations
purple star
-usually enamel, worn in the seventies as a symbol of lesbianism
quim
-slang for vagina. In Victorian times, the noun was used specifically to describe the fluids produced by the vagina, and, in particular, the fluids released at the time of orgasm. It is believed to originate from the Welsh 'cwm', which means 'hollow', or 'valley'.
rainbow or rainbow flag
-a gay pride symbol, designed by Gilbert Baker in 1978, originally having eight stripes: hot pink, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, and violet, which stood for sexuality, life, healing, the sun, nature or serenity, art, harmony, and spirit. The hot pink stripe was dropped when flag makers couldn't find suitable material, and the indigo stripe was dropped to make the flag more balanced, so that three stripes could hang on either side of lampposts at Pride Parades.
rimming
-to use your tongue and/or mouth to stimulate the anus and rectum by kissing, licking and penetrating.
rooster
-a masculine, aggressive, strong, independent lesbian.
rosebud
-the clitoris
sadomasochism
-taking pleasure from the giving and receiving of pain; the SM in BDSM
sadist
-someone who takes sexual pleasure from giving pain
SAM
-Smart Assed Masochist, a masochist who is rude in order to receive punishment
Sapphic
-code word for a lesbian, deriving from Sappho
Sappho
-ancient Greek poetess and headmistress of a school for young women on the island of Lesbos. Sappho wrote poetry, much of which is now lost, about her female lovers, who were frequently students at her finishing school. She had a daughter, Kleïs, to whose father she may or may not have been married; there is some debate on this point.
Saturday night butch
-a term from the 1950s and 60s, when butch/femme was the norm in lesbian bars, this means that a person was not a real butch, but only dressed up as a butch on the weekends. Women who were always butch and couldn't hide it looked down on these people as posers. Today, Saturday night butches are no longer really around, because they're all andro dykes instead.
scene
-(1) a subculture, as in "the club scene" (2) in BDSM, the arranged and negotiated sex or play; the framework (e.g. a 'cop scene' is one in which one or more of the players takes the role of a cop) or period of time (e.g. "Mistress Anna praised her submissive before ending the scene.") in which BDSM activity takes place. Used more loosely, it means any non-vanilla sex act.
scissors
-this was a new one for me. it refers to sex between two women. Imagine the scissors you would do with your hands for a game of 'rock, paper, scissors,' done with both hands, pushed together and moved around to simulate legs spread open and cunts being rubbed together.
sex
-physical plumbing or XX or XY chromosomes. There are an estimated 5 sexes by one researcher's count: Male, Merm, Herm, Ferm, and Female. Merms, Herms, and Ferms are intersexuals. Herm is a hermaphrodite with one teste and one ovary and external sex organs that are somewhere in between male and female. A Merm has testes but ambiguously-shaped genitalia. A Ferm has ovaries but ambiguously shaped genitalia. Some people are born with chromosomes opposite to their genital sex. Jamie Lee Curtis, for example, has XY chromosomes, making her chromosomally male, while she has unambiguously female genitals. In any case, sex is purely physical.
soft butch
-a butch lesbian who is, perhaps, not so stereotypically masculine as a stone butch
stone butch
-a very masculine woman, usually to the point that she is mistaken for a man frequently. The term comes from African American slang, in which "stone" means "very." It has come to have other meanings as well. A butch can be sexually stone, as in, not being able to permit herself to be touched on the genitals for sex; emotionally stone, meaning that she has locked away her emotions and has trouble acknowledging or expressing them; or physically stone, having trouble being touched at all. A stone butch is usually some combination of all of these. One stone butch summed up her essence with the statement, "It is a cool crawling sensation that causes a roaring rushing of white sound in the ears."
stone femme
- 1)a femme lesbian who never tries to flip or "melt" her stone butch lover, but prefers to pleasure her lover by taking a passive role in sex 2)a femme lesbian who does not like to be touched, much like a stone butch
Stonewall
-the Stonewall Inn, a gay bar in the late 1960s on Christopher Street, Greenwich Village, New York, which was raided by police on the night of June 28th, 1969. The queers in the bar (mostly butches, femmes, leathermen, leatherdykes, and drag queens) fought back, trapping police inside, breaking windows, and setting fire to the bar. Rioting continued for five days. These riots are generally considered to be the birth of the gay pride movement, although there were groups before that.
strap-on
-a dildo worn in a harness so that it is situated in the same location as a man's penis and used in a similar way.
submissive
-someone who likes to seem to give up control to a domme.
sushi
-an insulting term for Asian lesbians.
swing both ways
-bisexual.
switch
-1) one who is both a top and a bottom and switches back and forth 2) one who is butch sometimes and femme sometimes, and andro sometimes
tit king
-a woman who is attracted to big-breasted women.
tomboy
-a girl who prefers to dress and act the way society says boys are supposed to.
top
-1) (n) in general, the partner in sex who is active, or giving 2) (n) in the Leather Community, a sadist, domme, or dominatrix; the one who takes charge of the scene 3) (v) to take charge or be bossy.
transvestite
-a person who gets a sexual thrill from dressing and behaving as a member of the opposite sex. Transvestites are not necessarily homosexual and should not be confused with transgendered.
tryke
-a contraction of transsexual dyke, meaning a male to female transsexual who is a lesbian.
twat
-the vagina.
U-hauls
--used to refer to lesbians who fall in love at first sight and move in right away with a new lover. This phenomenon is so well-known within the lesbian community that it resulted in the joke "What does a lesbian take on her second date? A U-haul."
vagitarian
--a code word for lesbian. You should be able to figure the rest out for yourself.
van dyke
-a lesbian who has traces of a moustache.
vanilla
--non-leather or non-kinky sex or the people who have that kind of sex
vegan
--the most extreme kind of vegetarian, one who will eat no meat or animal product, including dairy products or eggs. Most will not use animal products of any sort, such as leather. An increasing number of lesbians are vegetarian and vegan.
vile affections
-a biblical term for homosexuality and a (one of the many) word which the far-right fundamental christians use to convey their disgust at homosexuality and homosexuals.
water sports
-an erotic interest in urine, either pissing on someone, being pissed on, watching someone piss, or all three (and probably some more I’ve missed).
woman-identified-woman or woman-loving-woman
--the lesbian feminist definition of lesbian
59'ing
- the 69 for lesbians minus one digit as there is no penis required
175
- The number used to mark homosexuals in Nazi concentration camps. It was reference to Paragraph 175 of the Penal code and was usually drawn on the inmates back in large numbers.
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