The Gay Girls Guide To Being Gay

The eBook

This is the first in a brand new series of books targeted solely at girls who do girls (and those who want to). It is a comprehensive guide, covering everything you are likely to encounter in your queer life, offering advice, support, and an unique insight into lesbian life. Whether you’re in your teens struggling to come to terms with your sexuality or have been married for 20 years and only beginning to realise yours (or anywhere in between),

The Gay Girls Guide To Being Gay will help you on your journey - even if you've been out for as long as you can remember (and hopefully give you a giggle along the way).

an extract from The Gay Girls Guide To Being Gay:

introduction

If you’re reading this chances are you're more than likely one of the following types of people - a lesbian, a bisexual woman, the parent of a queer woman, a curious straight woman or a bloke. If you’re a bloke you’d really be better just buggering off right now. Go back to the heterosexual stereotypes you are familiar with, where the lesbians have nails that would skewer steel, more lipstick than Max factor, breasts which are faker than George Bush's compassion, and exist solely to arouse and pleasure the less-than-fairer sex.

This is for REAL queer women. It’s for women who want to be with women, not to please their boyfriends/husbands, but because it’s what THEY want.

It isn’t definitive (yet) but I hope it will be helpful. It's meant to be serious and fun, but it also keeps its tongue firmly planted in its cheek for parts because I feel that we can sometimes take ourselves far too seriously. I hope that it will help you realise that you're not alone even if you’re feeling lonelier than you have ever done in your entire life. I hope it will offer some comfort when you're feeling afraid no matter if you're a teenager realising her sexuality or an older woman only coming to terms with hers. And, more than anything, I hope that, on those dark days, it will help you realise that you're not crazy (well, at least no more than the rest of us!).

And if it gives you a giggle along the way all the better.

Welcome to the new queer you!

Note:

Before I started this I thought about the best way to go about it, what would be most useful; a journal of my experiences to help you understand yours or something based on research, research, research. I’ve opted for what I hope is a nice blend of both. I’ve been a lesbian all my life, a conscious one since I was about 16 (14 years). I’ve written for quite a few well known gay and lesbian publications around the world for over six years and I even published a small (yet appreciated) 'zine for non-straight women here in my home town of Belfast. I’ve had girlfriends who were gay, bi, and a few who were straight till they met me (and went back to being straight after we finished - I don’t quite know if that’s a good or bad thing). I’ve had a girlfriend who had kids, one who was pregnant when we met, and one who I would have liked to have had a family with. Why am I telling you all this? I guess it’s to help you feel that I might know what I'm talking about. That most of what is in here is based on experience, either mine or that of the women close to me. That doesn’t mean that you should take everything I've written here as gospel. If you don’t believe me, or disagree with me, I won't be offended. I hope it spurs you on to get out there and find out for yourself. All I know is that I would have given anything for someone to have handed me a book like this when I was coming out because even if it didn’t solve all my problems, at least I would have known that I wasn’t alone, and I wasn’t the only person going through this. If this book helps just one person to feel that way, to help them realise that they are not alone, they are not a freak, and their life isn’t going to be ruined, then I will be unbelievably happy.

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164 pages

contents include:
introduction
1. so you think you might be queer
2. a brief herstory
3. internal homophobia
4. the essentials
5. pussy galore - the truth about lesbians and their cats -
a. stereotypes and myths,
b. how to be a lesbian,
6. tuning your gaydar - types of dykes and hints and tips to help you spot other lesbians
a. is she gay?
b. tuning your gaydar - types of dykes
7. coming out
a. living a lie
b. to family,
c. to friends,
d. to colleagues,
e. the aftermath of coming out,
f. questions to expect
8. urge to merge -
a. guide to lesbian relationships & dating.
b. what does a lesbian bring on a second date?
c. a guide to a seven day relationship,
d. are you a sucker for psychopaths,
e. are you in an abusive relationship,
f. the trouble with butch femme
g. civil partnerships
9. scene or not to scene - where to meet fellow lesbians/potential girlfriends
a. scene
b. non-scene
c. going solo - the joys of single life
10. fitting into the gay community
11. lesbian identity
12. lesbians - 2nd class citizens in the gay community?
13. down and dirty - lesbian sex,
a. mastrubation
b. toys
c. cunnillingus
d. anal
e. tribadilism
f. female eja**lation
g. fisting
h. more than one
14. lesbian sexual health
a. HIV/AIDS
b. syphilis
c. gonorrhoea
d. crabs
e. hepatitis
f. HPV
g. Chlamydia
h. stress
15. nobody believes I'm gay!
16. hitting a heterosexual phase
17. being bisexual,
a. married straight
18. parenting/having kids
a. having kids then realising your a lesbian
b. realising your a lesbian then having kids
i adoption/fostering
ii self insemination
iii clinic insemination
iv cloning
v. living with a pregnant partner
19. a brief introduction to feminism
20. lesbian icon, films, books
21. learn the lingo
a. lesbian dictionary
b. the secret language of women
22. erotica - a brief taster
23. useful numbers
a. northern ireland
b. scotland
c. wales
d. england
e. southern ireland
f. younger lesbians
g. older lesbians
h. online
i. parenting
conclusion
lesbian certificate