Hello,
Am not sure what to write really.
Okay am 25, am attracted to women, but never done anything about it.
Recently met a girl, who i really liked. Something told me that she was gay but turns out i was wrong, she has a boyfriend. Arrggh am gutted. Felt something towards her i've never felt towards any woman, so was certain about intuition untill proven otherwise.
Am wondering how you can tell if a woman is gay or bi?
Thought it was an inate feeling? Or maybe my intution was wishful thinking?
Anyway can't stop thinking about her...But have not seen her for weeks cos there is no point in dreaming, nothing will come of it..
Just hoping for a bit of advise...
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Answer:
There are lots of ways that you can tell if someone is gay, but none of them are 100% accurate. The best thing to do is to ask.
Even tho this girl has told you she isn't gay, it could be that she just hasn't accepted it herself, but it could also be that you just don't want to hear that she's straight.
The best thing to do is to listen to what she says. Even if she is gay and in denial she is not likely to be responsive to any advances and may even come to resent you for trying to force her to face something she is obviously not ready to face.
As hard as it may seem, the best thing is to move on. There are lots of gay women out there who are comfortable with their sexuality and would be only to happy to go out with you...for tips and tricks spotting other gay girls, check through my blogs as there are a few pieces dedicated to that sort of thing.
And if she's straight, she's straight...there's nothing any of us can do about that if she's not willing to see sense lol
I hope this helps.